Why Life Can Start To Feel Like A Prision

There can be times in life where things just don’t feel right, maybe we feel restless, unsatisfied, like something is missing or we’re in the wrong place.

Some of the common remarks I often hear from clients is that they feel like they are living someone else’s life, or what used to excite them now bores them, they feel trapped and that one particular part of their life (or many) now feel(s) like a prison.  Does this sound familiar to you?

How many times have you heard someone offer the old “A change is as good as a holiday” corker when it comes to giving worldly advice?   Our solution can be to silence the current feeling with temporary replacements – a new car, new shoes, a new hair cut, or the more serious knee jerk reaction of suddenly leaving a relationship, re-locating, selling our house, quitting our jobs or for those of us a little more daring – running away to join the circus… don’t laugh I actually know someone who did!  It seems like a cliche but it’s easy to still get caught up in the idea that the grass may be greener on the other side before we fully explore what is really at play and driving this feeling of needing to change something or feeling imprisoned in our own life.

Consider this for a second, when was the last time you checked in with yourself and asked if you were truly happy before you got to the circus stage?  Is it something you do regularly?  Is it something you put into practice with your partner, your family?  In fact, have you ever done this or have you just, like many people, sailed along through life without these check-ins, without seeing if the goal posts were still where you first set them? Did you set goals in the first place? If not, how will you know when you reach the things that you most desire? And how will you even know what you desire?

If your brain is screaming “too many questions, I want to get off this train”, I’m guessing maybe this could be ringing true a little then.

Life doesn’t need to feel like a trap, we don’t need to feel like we’re imposters in our own story.  If we take some time to re-evaluate where we are, to think about the things that are serving us still and those that are not aligned with our values and how we want to live our lives, then we can break down the perceived walls of our prison and start making some positive changes as opposed to using valuable time and energy hatching an escape plan.  Who’s got time for that!  I’d much rather be off living the life I want, wouldn’t you?  I’d love to chat with you and help you take the steps to live the life you want. 

Miranda Murray